Finding progress in the little moments.
Today, we headed to my parents’ house to help them finish moving.
And I would be lying if I said I wasn’t feeling a little nervous and a little sad. My parents moved into this house when I was 10 years old. So much of who I am today was shaped here. Within these four walls, I grew up. I learned. I made mistakes. I celebrated milestones. I experienced joy, heartbreak, laughter, and love.
And now, as we prepare to close this chapter, I find myself reflecting on just how much this place means to me. It’s funny how a house becomes so much more than a house. It’s the familiar sounds. The rooms filled with memories. The places where ordinary moments became extraordinary simply because of the people we shared them with. It’s the feeling of coming home. And while I know that home has never really been about the walls themselves, there’s something bittersweet about saying goodbye to the place that held so much of our lives. I’m excited for my parents and this next chapter they’re beginning. But I’m also allowing myself to feel the sadness that comes with closing a chapter that has been part of my story for so long. Because sometimes, moving forward means saying goodbye to something that helped make you who you are. And maybe that’s what I’m feeling most today. Gratitude. Gratitude for the memories, the lessons, the love, and the life that happened here.
As we drove closer to my parents’ house, I reminded myself that I had one mission today.
Let Mom and Dad lead.
Let them tell me what they wanted. Let them decide what stayed, what went, and how they wanted things packed. I reminded myself that today wasn’t about walking into their home and taking control. It wasn’t about packing things the way I would pack them or getting as much done as possible. It was about listening. It was about allowing them to lead and supporting them along the way.
When we arrived, Mom and I started in the computer room. This room held our family computer and so many of the photographs and memories collected throughout the years. In a way, it felt fitting that this was where I would begin. I’ve always loved taking photographs. I’ve always loved documenting life, creating memories, and holding on to the little moments that make up our stories. And here I was, surrounded by so many of those moments. But the stacks. Oh, the stacks. Papers, photographs, files, and things I didn’t even realize my parents still had. There was so much.
As we worked our way through everything, I found myself asking question after question. “Mom, do you want to keep this?” “Should we donate this?” “Do you want to give this away?” “Where would you like this to go?” I asked a lot of questions. And as the day went on, I could see those questions beginning to wear on her.
We continued making progress, little by little. We cleaned out a chest filled with cooking spices, many of which Mom admitted she probably wouldn’t use again. We worked our way through the computer desk, sorting through years of papers, photographs, and memories. And toward the end, I noticed something. Mom was starting to cry. “Mom, are you okay?” I asked. “Are you feeling overwhelmed?” “Yeah,” she said. “It’s just a lot. It’s a whole lifetime that we’re packing up.” And in that moment, I understood. Because she was right. It wasn’t just a house we were packing up. It was a lifetime. A lifetime of raising children. A lifetime of family dinners, birthdays, holidays, celebrations, and ordinary afternoons. A lifetime of memories tucked into drawers, stored in boxes, and scattered throughout the rooms of a home that had held our family for so many years. Every piece of paper, every photograph, every little thing represented something. A moment. A memory. A part of their story. And now, after all these years, they were being asked to decide what pieces of that story would move forward with them. “It’s a lot, Mom,” I told her. “It’s a whole life. And this is hard. It’s not easy.” Then I asked her something. “Do you want to take a break?” “Yes,” she said. And so we did. We stopped packing, left the house, and went to lunch together near the lake by their new home.
And as I thought about the day, I kept coming back to one thing. Progress doesn’t always have to look like getting everything done. Sometimes progress is cleaning out one drawer. Sometimes it’s sorting through one stack of photographs. Sometimes it’s making one difficult decision about something you’ve held on to for years. And sometimes progress is recognizing when it’s time to stop, take a break, and simply be together.
If I could remind my mom of one thing, it would be this: Mom, I know this is hard. I know packing up a lifetime of memories isn’t easy. I know that every room holds pieces of the life you and Dad built together. And I know that letting go of a home that has held so much of our family story comes with emotions that aren’t always easy to explain. But I want you to know something. You are making progress. Little steps at a time. One drawer. One box. One room. One day. And while this chapter may feel heavy right now, I want you to remember what’s waiting on the other side. A new home. A simpler life. A fresh beginning. A place near the lake, near the water you’ve always told me you love so much. A place where you and Dad can slow down, breathe a little easier, and enjoy this next chapter of your lives together. And while I know leaving this home is hard, I hope you can find comfort in knowing that the life you built here isn’t being left behind. Because the memories aren’t in the walls. They’re in us. They’re in the stories we tell, the photographs we keep, the traditions we carry forward, and the people we’ve become because of the life you created. I am one of those people. So much of who I am today was shaped within those four walls. And no matter where you live, that will always be a part of me.
Today reminded me that moving forward doesn’t mean forgetting where we’ve been. Sometimes moving forward simply means having the courage to turn the page, even when we aren’t quite ready to close the chapter. And that’s okay. We’ll take it one step at a time. One little moment of progress after another. Until one day, the boxes will be unpacked, the moving will be behind us, and we’ll be sitting together by the lake, making new memories. Because the beautiful thing about a lifetime of memories is that we aren’t finished making them.
I love you, Mom and Dad. I’m so proud of you. And I’m so excited for everything that’s still to come.
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